Perspective of Domestic Violence Between Aggressor and Victim
In the morning of November 22, 2011, the University of Puerto Rico Mayaguez Campus, was dressed in purple in solidarity with victims of gender violence. The event was called, “Colegio Against Gender Violence.” The Program Coordinating Committee for the Prevention of Violence Against Women by the Project’s Living Forever Mayaguez Campus organized this event. The color purple represents the bruises and bumps of violence to the victims. To be dressed in purple is to honor the lives of people who have been murdered because of their gender. Putting on purple will take the message that college students are against domestic violence, sexual assault and stalking.
This event also has organized a series of workshops that discussed the protocol for handling domestic violence, sexual assault and stalking on the Mayagüez Campus. The certification number 10-11-013 approved this protocol on Thursday, September 9, 2011. (Ramirez,1). Colegio insist that the university community constitute a safe, dignify and peaceful place. This protocol informs and orients the students and the university faculty to know the steps to follow in case of a situation of domestic violence, sexual aggression or stalking occurs in the university community.
According to the Law 54 “Domestic violence is a systematic pattern by physical, psychological, sexual, intimidation or persecution of a person to cause serious emotional damage, regardless of their needs, rights, wishes and interests. The person committing the act has held or holds an intimate relationship with the victim or has fathered a child of that relationship” (Valle).
Puerto Rico is one of the top 10 countries with the most female murderer victims in the world. The highest level of domestic violence is found in female victims between 16 and 24 years old and more than half victims of stalking have between 18 and 29 years. Many victims of sexual assault do not report it because they are scared or they feel ashamed. A recent study made by the National Institute in the United States found that the 5% of college students each year are victims of sexual aggression. Most victims are full-time students approximately and one third are new entry students between 17 and 19 years. Studies indicate that between 81-84% of these attacks are not reported to the police. (Ramirez, 3-4)
Puerto Rico has a law, Act No. 54 of August 15, 1989, as amended, known as the Law on the Prevention and Intervention in Domestic Violence which defines domestic violence as a constant pattern of physical force or psychological violence, intimidation or prosecution against a person on behalf of his spouse. (Valle)
Abuse toward women should be understood as a chronic disease. While there are isolated cases of women as victims of abuse by an intimate partner who then stop them, in most cases the violence is maintained over time and is part of daily life in the couple. Everything has a start, including domestic violence. It has 3 phases: accumulation phase of tension, the acute episode of violence and the reconciliation phase.
The accumulation of discomfort is also called “accumulation phase of tension.” It is characterized by chronicity and is dominated by what is known as “psychological abuse”. In this form of abuse man ridicules women, unaware of his presence, not paying attention to what she says, laughing at their opinions, the corrected in public, criticizing the body offends, puts nicknames, etc.. These behaviors have an effect on the victim, causing a progressive weakening of their psychological defenses.
The explosion causes the discomfort of “acute episode of violence.” Usually physical, but it could also be verbal only. The physical violence is highly variable and can range from a pinch to murder. It is common for violent episode in full force man to the woman to have sex. Usually these episodes before God the aggressor increases the intensity of aggression, accusations, slander, insults and threats, and it creates a climate of constant fear on the victim.
He’s going to change.
That was the hope that Norma harbored in her heart. But he did not change. He switched off the life of the 26 year old stabbed to inflict literally pierced his heart. The tragic outcome of what his father told, Oscar Hernandez.
“I saw her get hit home with black eyes. I saw her come home with a broken nose result of being struck by the phone, “he said. Was then added which focused on the Act 54 and her daughter agreed to press charges to get a protective order. However, as pointed Hernández, the attacker approached her and made promises of change and even participated in a retreat. “So she got her access temporarily back into your life, to show that had changed. A week after those promises we received the news through the Puerto Rico Police that our daughter had been murdered victim of domestic violence with an accurate stab at the center of her heart, ” Mr. Oscar said sadly to remember.
The moment of repentance or “honeymoon” is classic. The offender asks for forgiveness, and does everything possible to convince the victim that he will not have this type of behavior.
Aggressors share common characteristics such as; they are closed-minded individuals that do not usually listen to other people. They perceive their wife as a provocateur, and have a sort of magnifying glass to see every little detail of the conduct of it. Abusers have difficulty expressing their feelings, do not support, care or appreciable associations to others do not respect the rights and opinions.
Mayaguez Campus has a special program for domestic violence victims and survivors created by Prof. Luisa Seijo Maldonado called “SIEMPRE VIVAS” or Always Alive. The program was created in 1997 by a group of students in a course held in UPRM. It started as a little support group that had their meetings to offer support to females who were victims of domestic violence.
Today, the program has its own accommodation at UPRM, it is called “La casita de las Mujeres” or “The Ladies House”.
“In the system of the victim and aggressor many excuses are said such as: “I’m not living because of money issues, I’m not because of their children,” but in fact is not true, there is an answer of acceptance of some form of this system of violence,” said Seijo.
That is why Hernandez promised in front of the coffin of her daughter being spokesman warns against abuse. He has since been dedicated to sharing with others her’s testimony with the hope that it can prevent another tragedy. He said that so far has reported a 16 attacker. Furthermore Prf. Seijo, has been working this past few years in the program “La casita de las Mujeres,” to offer advice to females as well as victims of domestic violence and sexual assault.
With efforts like these, the Campus will be integrated into the community to provide support services to all those women who suffer domestic violence. That’s why there are programs like this help-only through Puerto Rico.