By: Yesenia M. Malave Vazquez
Target: UPRM students
A child was humiliated by his classmates, he called names and he delayed on telling what was going on. This is the story of Daniel, a fourth grader student in Kissimmee, Florida who was the victim.
The last two weeks of classes were a nightmare for Daniel because those classmates who aggresses him were bothering so much. His desperate mother, Tari Arroyo, went to the principal’s office, who said she was exaggerating and kicked her out from the office.
Frustrated, Tari decided to call the regional office so they could preoccupy about the problem and be solved.
Bullying, a controversial problem, includes in-school harassment and all forms of physical, verbal or psychological abuse between classmates. Bullies may hit or push other children, call them unpleasant nicknames, intimidate them and make fun of them in front of others.
According to Hernán Mendez, psychologist at the University of Puerto Rico at Mayaguez (UPRM), the person who bullies behaves this way because he wants to feel pleasure maybe for a trauma or problem that generally begins at home. If parents have a favorite son and have more kids, the others will be more prone to become bullies at school because they have less attention from their parents.
Peer pressure is also a problem for bullies because they need to feel superior and do things better than the others. Having problem following rules is another problem for bullies.
Dr. Méndez believes that the education system is not prepared to deal with bullying due to lack of interest.
Otherwise, he claims that homosexual students are not that prone to bullying because they are now more accepted in society. The homosexual movement is more organized even though some sectors in our society still reject them. This may put their life in danger.
In Méndez’s opinion, obese students are having more problems with bullying than homosexuals. CNN.com published a report of studies that the University of Michigan has been working on which state that children in grades 3 through 6 who are obese are more likely to be bullied than their normal-weight peers. The news explained that what bother the bullies is that they have better skills and grades in school than the kids that are being bullied.
We need to be worry because this is causing a lot of suicides, trauma and intimidations.
Bullying can cause depression to victims. Most of the victims refuse to go to the place where they know they will find the bully. If it is in school, the problem starts reflecting low grades and no DE to go to classes. Also victims of bullying think about suicide, especially when they do not have the support of their parents.
On the order hand, bullying at work is more common than people think. This is carried on by jealous of coworkers, boss or customers that do not bear you said an expert in work harassment. Bullying is almost seen between bosses to workers, but when it is between coworkers the reasons could be that the one who bullies wants a higher position and do not want the victim to be competitive.
Victims of workplace bullying do not want to get up and go to work when they see the timer coming up. Most of them cannot sleep thinking about what they passed that day or expecting what will happen tomorrow. When they are criticized, they become obsessed with trying to do a better work. Most of victims of this type of bullying start to have problems with their family and have no concentration in other things.
Sadly, bullying does not disappear from one day to another but we can help the victims get out of that circle of violence they are in. In school, work, community, friendship; bullying is everywhere. Its our choice to stop bullying or let the bullies cause mental problems to others. Bullying needs to be treated by professionals in mental health. They are the ones who can deal perfectly with the problem.