Queer Sexuality: Clearing Misconceptions about Uncommon Relationships

By: Bryan L. Arroyo Rivera

Are we born knowing our sexual orientations? Is it possible that sexuality is determined in the genes? Or do we actually choose our sexuality?

Held March 5, 2014 during “The V Coloquio del Otro La’o: Perspectivas sobre Sexualidades Queer” (V Colloquium from the Other Side: Perspectives about the Queer Sexuality) at the University of Puerto Rico in Mayagüez (UPRM), the event “Sexualidades Queer: Asexualidad, Pansexualidad, El Poliamor y la Monogamia” (Queer Sexualities: Asexuality, Pansexuality, Polyamory and Monogamy), features three UPRM students discussing their views on the subject.

The even was attended by many students interested in the topics. Some of them had to sit on the ground.

The event begins with a discussion about asexuality. Speaker Vashti Tacoronte said it means lack of sexual interest. The group then proceeded to discuss the topic with the audience. Assuming different viewpoints, depending on their perspectives. Roberto, another event speaker, took the stance pertaining to asexuality being a choice, because people can decide depending on physical appearance, while Vashti opposed this thought, because one can be born this way due to genetic conditions prior to birth.

Vashti proposed that sexuality is simply a word to describe, that humankind has an obsession with labeling everything, categorizing and organizing everything into boxes. People who do not ”fit” into these boxes (for example gender and sex), tend to complain about not being recognized by the world.

Pansexuality, attraction to every gender, which includes but is not limited to, transexuals, cysgender, genderqueer, etc. A pansexual person is not necessarily attracted to everyone, but rather have a potential to, as explained by Vashti and Denisse.

The group went on to explain polyamory, which is the act of being in an intimate and sexual relationship between three or more people, while everyone is aware and love each other equally.

The spokespersons asked the audience if they believe in the success of a polyamorous relationship. An attendee responded that people can be in many sexual relationships at the same time, but only in one intimate relationship, because dividing that kind of attention between more people could prove disastrous.Vashti said that it depends on the level of maturity between these people.

Following the end of the event around 5:00 pm, attendee José Jimenez shared his views on the topics previously discussed. Inquiring about his views on polyamory, he answered that he personally wouldn’t be in that kind of relationship because he prefers being with a single person. Even though he is still curious about open relationships. He also states that in order for a relationship to be successful, you must remain true to your partner.

An attendee referred the conference to an online site called More Than Two, which is designed to help people understand polyamory relationships and provides tips and guides in how to overcome common polyamory fears.



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